Love Our Lurkers Day!

Happy Love Our Lurkers Day everyone!

Don't know what I'm talking about? Each year, Bonnie over at My Bottom Smarts organizes a wonderful event for spanking bloggers everywhere.  On this day each year we ask YOU, the people who silently read (and hopefully enjoy) our blogs, to say hi.

I do hope you'll post a comment today to say hello - I'd love to know who you are (You can post anonymously too, if you feel more comfortable that way)!

LOL Monday

Happy Monday everyone!  I love this week's LOL, although it doesn't specifically deal with spanking.  Obviously, throwing a girl in a washing machine would be a bit extreme, but I'm curious to know how many (if any) of you include mouthsoaping in your kinky play.

Around here it's wise to avoid such activities, as I have a rather severe reaction to such things which most Tops don't enjoy :)

LOL Monday

Time for another edition of LOL Monday.





Happy Monday everyone!

The conclusion to the spanking meme you thought would never end :)

And here it is - the last nine questions in the ultimate spanking meme:

41. Would you rather be humiliated or respected during your spanking? While I don't mind a little embarrassment, humiliation is a big no. There should always be mutual respect within consensual spanking.

42. Would you rather spanking become part of a bigger BDSM alternative lifestyle or spanking just be spanking for spanking sake? When I first discovered kink I had more interest in BDSM, but those interests now lean much more heavily to spanking. I do enjoy a little extra on the side from time to time, though.

43. Would you rather be filmed during a spanking to share your exhibitionist naughtiness or are you too modest to show your bum to the world? While my decision isn't necessarily predicated on modesty, I'd opt not to be photographed or filmed. I have no problem sharing my kink with like-minded people, or even open minded vanilla friends, but that doesn't mean I want videos of myself indulging in spanking out there where anyone could find it. There are certain people (my parents come to mind) who are better off in blissful ignorance and I intend to keep it that way.


44. Would you rather your spanking be gentle and gradual or painful and abrupt? Both serve a purpose and I enjoy both types fairly equally. The most important thing is to match the spanking to the mood. I would be disappointed by a gentle spanking if I was craving the physical and emotional release of a harder, rougher one and I'd probably be out of sorts if I was geared up for something light and gentle and was instead abruptly spanked much harder than I was prepared for.

45. Would you rather be defiant or fearful going into a spanking? Fearful. If I go into a spanking defiant, it never seems to end well (and it's only happened once or twice that I can recall). A little bit of fear adds a wonderful edge to a spanking that I always enjoy.


46. Would you rather be spanked exclusively in your own bedroom or anyplace else other than your own bedroom? If I had to choose one or the other I'd choose anyplace else. Limiting myself to only my bedroom would rule out so many other wonderful options!

47. Would you rather be spanked exclusively on your bottom or other places could be interesting too? My bottom would definitely be my favorite target, but other places are fair game. After all, sometimes my bottom needs a break :)

48. Would you rather a spanking be a surprise or be something you have to look forward to? Oh. Gosh. This one's tough. I really like knowing ahead of time so that I can squirm for a little while anticipating the upcoming spanking. But then again, I really love a surprise. There's just something about being dropped into that headspace suddenly and without warning.

49. Would you rather spanking be a part of role playing kinkiness or a response to events that have happened in reality? I don't mind a little bit of role play, but I much prefer to be myself in a spanking.

And there you have it!

Spanking and more spanking (meme) (part 4)

The fun continues!

31. Would you rather have a safe word or be pushed beyond your preconceived limits? Both. I think a safeword is an important tool when pushing "limits" because it frees the spanker to push and prod past those blurry lines without having to worry that they're going too far.

32. Would you rather your spanker know your spanking history or is ignorance bliss? I don't think every partner needs to know the blow-by-blow descriptions of every spanking I've ever had, but some knowledge of my experience and preferences is useful.

33. Would you rather be spanked by multiple people at one time or just by one person at one time? Multiple people could be fun, but for everyday spanking, I think one is more practical.

34. Would you rather be spanked once a day or once every few months? Multiple times a day isn't an option?

35. Would you rather your spanker be deeply in tune or be totally unaffected to your experience as a spankee? As spanking is an experience shared by the spanker and spankee, I'd want him to be in tune with me and my responses.

36. Would you rather a closer physical relationship or a closer emotional relationship with your spanker? Well, I wouldn't have a closer physical relationship without a close emotional one. But I have had very close platonic relationships with spankers, and enjoy those immensely.

37. Would you rather your spanker ice your bottom down after a spanking or send you to the corner to display his/her accomplishment? Neither? I'd just like a good cuddle, or well...

38. Would you rather your spanker be the person you wish to live the rest of your life with (i.e. marriage) or the person you can call on when your tushy tickles? I hope to marry someone who will enjoy spanking me as much as I enjoy being spanked, but I'm also hoping we'll both be able to share our love of spanking with others. Variety is the spice of life, after all!

39. Would you rather spanking be a part of love making or not a part of love making? Both.

40. Would you rather your spanker have total control over you when you are being spanked or do you still want to have some control while you are being spanked? A little of both. Although I find that if I know I have some control, I have a much harder time letting go of it, which tends to make the experience more difficult for me in the long run.

And next time... the much desired conclusion to the spanking meme, after which you will know everything there is to know about me and spanking that can be answered in 40 questions or less!

LOL Monday:The Corner Edition

This week's LOL Monday is dedicated to the corner...

LOL Monday

This week's LOL Monday is dedicated to those kinks that fall outside the realm of spanking - enjoy!

There have been a few news reports about cats who steal underpants from neighboring laundry lines.  I guess that's one way to indulge in your panty fetish!

This photo was on failblog recently, but I'd say it's more of a WIN!

Still another spanking meme (part 3)

And on to the third installment of this glimpse into my mind when it comes to all things spanking...

21. Have you received a spanking in the past week? Sadly not. Clearly the world is out of balance ;)


22. Would you rather be spanked for the physical pleasure or the emotional release? I enjoy both, but find that often when I'm really craving a spanking, it's the emotional connection and release that I'm seeking.

23. Would you rather tell your best friends you enjoy be spanked or keep it secret? Many of my friends know. Some know more than others.


24. Would you rather spanking be a lifestyle choice or just something you dabble in? As one of my previous posts on this blog indicates, I don't believe it is a choice. It is a very real part of me, one I wouldn't part with if I could.

25. Would you rather your lover be a vanilla or a spankoholic too? A spanko, through and through.

26. Would you rather be spanked by a stranger or by someone who knew you well? Some of my strongest fantasies involve being spanked by a stranger, but when it comes to real life I prefer to play with someone I know and who knows me. There's so much that goes on during a spanking, both physical and emotional, that a real understanding of your partner makes a huge difference. That said, everyone starts out as a stranger, and I'm always happy to meet and play with someone new.

27. Would you rather be spanked by despotic, mean person or by a compassionate, benevolent person? The first would be pretty hard for me. I generally need for there to be some compassion or connection between me and the spanker.

28. Would you rather be talked to while you are spanked or no talking at all? You can feel free to talk, but I can't promise I'll understand anything you say. My attention will probably be focused elsewhere.

29. Would you rather get one swat at a time with pauses to let the sting set in or a continuous tanning to build up the fire? I guess that depends on if you want me to be able to stay still, or want a wriggling, writhing, girl on your hands.

30. Would you rather be forced into a spanking or willingly submit into a spanking? I'd rather willingly submit, while maintaining a bit of fantasy about being overpowered or controlled.

Until next time...

Brats For Sale

I passed this sign on my way in to work this morning and just had to stop...

LOL Monday

Happy Labor Day everyone!